Memories with my Moula over 50 glorious years. The smiling young one between bewe Moulas has witnessed the glorious and eventful 50 years. At the Shabab outing managed to evoke smile on Moula's radiant face, with a silly Chinese skit. At the Star Sporting Club outing got a walk the talk opportunity. Treasured memories.

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Moulatena Khadijah binte Khawaylid

 Moulatena  Khadijah was born in 554 AD to Khawaylid bin Asad and Fatima binte Zaid. She was a wealthy, matronly figure, a rarity for pagan Arabs, who considered women sub human, buried their daughters alive at birth, and freely traded their wives, considering them as personal property.

In such an environment, Moulatena Khadijah was an exceptional woman. She was not only of noble birth but wealthy and independent by virtue of managing her own trade business. She had married Abu Halah Malik bin Nasbash and borne him two children when his untimely death widowed her. She then married Atiquee bin Aith bin Abdullah and bore him a child. Being twice widowed already and a mother of three children at forty, she was perhaps Allah's best choice for Muhammad (SA) who needed an anchor and support at a critical juncture of his life. 

Moulatena Khadijah at first engaged Muhammad (SA) services, hearing of his impeccable reputation, and he took a trade caravan to Syria on her behalf. Upon his return it was Moulatena Khadijah, who took the initiative of proposing marriage to Muhammad (SA) The marriage was then formally arranged through their respective uncles, as their respective fathers were both deceased. Muhammad (SA) was twenty five and she was forty, at the time of marriage, and for the next twenty five years, till her death, Muhammad (SA) never took another wife. 

This marriage was a blissful one. He lived his life as a content family man until age forty, when Prophethood was bestowed upon him. From that year onwards he got involved in trials and tribulations, that is the lot of all Divinely - guided spiritual reformers.

This marriage of Muhammad (SA) remained the most dominant relationship in his life. Any precedent that Moulatena Khadijah set as an ideal wife and companion, has become a bench mark to emulate and aspire, for the Muslim women, who will populate this world till 
the day of Qayamah.

Moulatena Khadijah bore the prophet six children, their names in chronological order are : - Qasim, Zaynab, Ruqqaya, Umme Kulthum, Fatima, and Abdullah. Of these the two sons did not live past infancy. 

The marriage of Muhammad (SA) and Moulatena Khadijah was a union where the emotional connection was primary pillar in their relationship. She was the one who supported him like a bedrock, when the entire Makkah was against the Prophet.

It was Moulatena Khadijah who after the first revelation was received, and Muhammad (SA) was in a state of confusion, she was the one who was steadfast in faith and provided succour and comfort. She took Muhammad (SA) to her cousin Waraqah bin Nawfil, a Christian convert. Waraqah affirmed that it was indeed the archangel Jibraeel of the Abrahamic tradition, who had descended to him by the command of Allah, and confirmed the Prophethood. 

She was the first to declare her faith in Islam. The support of Moulatena Khadijah was even more crucial when there was a time lag between the second and third revelation. Moulatena Khadijah's support and faith was unwavering.

Her wealth was primarily spent on charity. In the last ten years of her life, she lived a life of immense hardship, as the wife of a Prophet struggling to bring people to believe in the unseen God - just as Nabi Musa and Nabi Isa had suffered persecution. 

Moulatena Khadijah passed away peacefully in 619 AD at the age of sixty five, and created a void in the life of Muhammad (SA) which he felt as long as he lived. His sense of loss and pining for Moulatena Khadijah is evident from an account given by one of his wife, who recounted how Muhammad (SA) would go pale and tremble, on hearing the voice of Umme Hala, who sounded like her deceased sister Moulatena Khadijah. 

The status and affection held by Muhammad (SA) for Moulatena Khadijah is evident from the fact that he cherished her memory by sending her close circle of friends, a portion of meat from his own sheep sacrifices. Considering that Muhammad (SA) and his wives led a life of extreme poverty, the sharing of meat with the friends of Moulatena Khadijah, speaks of his love for her.

Moulatena Khadijah thus set a benchmark for a perfect wife in Islam. The cornerstone of a vibrant and healthy relationship is love, sincerity and trust. 

This Akhbar is thus Anwaar for all mumina who wish to become ideal life partner.

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